I think the one of the stupidest things that people of color do is use the pigment of their skin to define beauty, intelligence, a level class or civility, and just overall a view of a better person.
It happens in the black/ African community, Indian culture, Middle Eastern cultures, and various parts of Asia.
It is a hard stigma to break with such statements as “beauty is in the eye of the beholder,” or “beauty is only skin deep.”
These two popular sayings are contradictory because you have one statement that expresses that beauty if based on someone else’s opinion and another opinion saying forget what others think of your appearance. It is hard to dabble with because no one wants to be considered ugly, or less than perfect because they don’t fit a certain mold or meet a particular standard.
So what do we have, people finding a character flaw in something that is very hard to control and feeling like they are less of a person because they don’t measure up to this societal view of what is considered beauty.
As for the #teamlightskin #teamdarkskin bullshit, that is what it is a bunch of bull shit. Regardless of how society may treat you based on your complexion, be realistic, you are not going to fall short or not measure up to a standard because of your skin tone. If you don’t meet a standard or goal, look at the person staring back at you in the mirror. Don’t look at your skin as a hindrance, because everyone is one decision away from making their life better or making their difficult.
I’m just sick of division in people of color based on skin tone. It is ridiculous, and while you are busy making divisions within your race and culture, the rest of the world still will view you as you are, whether it be Black, Indian, or Japanese.
If someone is going to respect you and appreciate you for the person you are, being dark or light is not going to make a difference to them.
I say this because of the negative connotations that have been associated with me because I’m a dark skin black woman.
Literally two weeks ago, I went to take a polygraph test and do fingerprints for a job with a County government office. I walked through several corridors and long hallways before I reached my destination and when I passed through the security desk, the security guard began asking me some strange ass questions. So, I’m looking at her like she is crazy I haven’t responded to any of them because I was minding my business so I didn’t know she was talking to me. Well she finally just asked me, something about that day being my release day. I asked release from what I am up here for work related purposes. She then responded, Oh, I thought you were an inmate and today was your release day.
I was pissed to high heaven because I was minding my business and also I was judged based on my skin tone. I was wearing a suit, I was carrying my briefcase and portfolio and to society, even other people of my race I came off as a criminal.
Or when people see me, one of the questions that I am asked is where do I go to school, well I graduated about 4 years ago. Then they assume I am referring high school… I graduated from a four year university, in three years with two bachelors.
Another question I often get asked is how many kids do I have? Is that a dating question? It should more so be asked if I am single, right?
Or when I speak to people I am often told that I talk “white”. There is no such thing as talking a certain color and I speak proper English… Why? Because I have never gone through a job interview, gone through a college course, or went to a business or what not and wanted to be addressed as if I were talking to one of my friends I hang out with…
I don’t want to go to a job interview, or call a business and I am greeted, “What’s up,” or “What’s good?” We don’t know each other and I am trying to be your friend, address like a stranger in the streets, put your best foot forward, give the effort of trying to give a good impression because that is what I am trying to do…
I am never asked anything positive in association with being a young black woman, why because there is already a division within the black community and the stigma in the mind of cultures that we have made no effort to be better than the opinions of people.
Don’t let the opinions become factual or associated as facts…